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Life becomes harder for us when we live for others, but it also becomes richer and happier
-Albert Schweitzer
And now time to define:
self·ish /ˈsɛlfɪʃ/
–adjective
1. devoted to or caring only for oneself; concerned primarily with one’s own interests, benefits, welfare, etc., regardless of others.
2. characterized by or manifesting concern or care only for oneself: selfish motives.
selfish - Definitions from Dictionary.com
self·less /ˈsɛlflɪs/
–adjective
having little or no concern for oneself, esp. with regard to fame, position, money, etc.; unselfish.
selfless - Definitions from Dictionary.com
Lets take moment to look at both of these definitions. Neither seems particularly great. Both ignore a integral part of the equation, either yourself or everyone else. I’m going to take a moment to redefine and explain myself, but first I’d like to share what I’ve said before on this topic.
As a post-grad wanderer you are stuck negotiating for jobs, fruit, friends, relationships, and your own sanity. You spent all this time getting to know yourself, so be a bit selfish. Compromise doesn’t mean that you don’t get what you want, just that everyone involved gets something.
Getting to yes, negotiation is more than a courtroom skill.
To look at this from a selfish angle, people can and will enhance you. Interact and learn from everything around you. Feed yourself.
Now, depending on how you look at it, thinking about nothing is a very selfish act. You are putting your non-thought, your personal resources, into doing nothing, except maybe consuming a commercial. This is selfish.
Putting yourself first. [discovering your social core]
You must put yourself first, alongside others. Put yourself first and get to know yourself, take some time away.
Putting yourself first. [discovering your social core]
The journey toward a core interpersonal discovery:
Putting yourself first, with another.
Putting yourself first, alongside others.
Putting yourself first, alongside everything.
Being first and selfish (in a good way) because of and with everything and recognizing it.
Putting yourself first. [discovering your social core]
Take the two definitions that we began with and blend them together.
devoted to or caring for oneself, without regard to fame, position, money, etc., concerned with interests not only your own.
What can we call this? Above, in the quotes, I sometimes use the words selfish and selfless in their traditional forms. Other times, I’m using the mashed up definition directly above to describe what I think the potential of selfishness is.
Live to learn. Work to live. Live for others selfishly.
