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There is only one thing you can bring to relationships, yourself. To do this you need to spend time on it but not in the way that common culture defines. Also, to build a relationship that you can bring to everyone else you need to spend specific relationship time too.
What space isn’t:
• TV
• Internet
• Hanging out with a group
• Even reading a book
This is because you aren’t truly alone, truly taking space. Deliberate effort is required to make room for space for you and your relationships.
Like how Iraq was mission accomplished 5 years today, I too felt accomplished. I was just about to finish high school and I hadn’t even decided on a college. I was though flying high, mission accomplished. I had recently regained trust by my parents and summer “adult” freedom was ripening on my tongue.
I forgive Hilary for voting for the war. If was voting on mis-information too. Grownup had arrived. Today I know I have a lifetime of growing up to do.
So I am reemerging not to fill the spaces of the pages but to fill some parts of me that I too often look elsewhere to. I know that my mission isn’t accomplished and that I’ll consume lots of coffee to get there. The reset button is close by, could you push it? No, just a soft reset. I don’t want to lose everything.
Lets not fault Bush for calling a war or even calling it to a close super early, lets fault him for not listening to the experience and learning from it. Get out of there!
It is hard. It is what defines his stay in office. Victim to simple quick fixes, time is a difficult illusion. The longer you stay in it, the further you fall face first into reality.
I have spent a lot of time recently on MBA applications. It has been a while since I had to so craftily praise myself in front of others; it was never this specific. I am defending passion and my future career plans. In definition, I have gone through a transition. Unlike the addictions of war, I have turned the red tide. What are you surfing on when you need something else to keep the momentum?
We are not alone for a reason. Use your developing intuition and growing heart in sync to determine self-motivation. Look to those you know to be real sensors of your being. At the very least there is a technique that is simple to surf through the rougher and lonelier times.
List accomplishments of your day, w/o your minds side commentary; if any slips in, you are forbidden from making further note of it at all.
Today:
• Entry to baited blog
• Made progress on scholarship guidebook at work
• Speedily organized home office
• Felt reemergence of China-fondness
• Large Mexican latte instead of small
Find your coastline and ride…summer is coming whether you want it to or not.
If there was a balance between intensity and mellow this Aussie group has the tones and beats to wow. There is a bit of salsa influence, ears appreciate the use of classic instruments.
The songs roll through nights out and days inside the mind. They don’t shy from moral exploration that mimic the confusion and passion in youth. So the ability to relate is easy.
This album found me when I was in the middle of a intense transition thanks to happening upon it with a friend. It resounded in me and still does.
The third track of the album, The Lost Song, goes…
”I had a plan but never finished it and I’ve been searching for the thought and I’ve been searching in a haze I try all days to remember it but now the blueprint in my mind is gone my mind forgot the color of direction and my eyes they see the hands that could have built that coulda constructed the empire in my mind, the empire I’ll never find, I had a plan but that was where it ended.”
The urges to…
booze it up
celebrate
save
stand up
fight
cry
question
sex up a situation
settle down
be loud
be quiet
Much like this album, we can experience it all in one day. We wish we knew the answer to control it. This album helps me stop and embrace it. Take some time and listen to these songs, maybe everything happening at once can be just as fun as this album.
It is hard to define your own empire after you have lost it to the transition that happened yesterday, the day before, and etc.
When you think negotiation, you many times think of the courtroom or even the Middle East crisis. The thing is, your daily life involves a bit of negotiation. As a post-grad wanderer you are stuck negotiating for jobs, fruit, friends, relationships, and your own sanity. You spent all this time getting to know yourself, so be a bit selfish. Compromise doesn’t mean that you don’t get what you want, just that everyone involved gets something. You might think that it’s a matter of dividing up a pie when in fact you are each looking at different pies altogether. Take a moment, a breather, and remember that you and the bed, the day’s outfit, or the traffic will figure something out. Maybe what isn’t working is actually providing you with an opportunity, you just have to look at it from the un-tucked shirt’s point of view.
There are a few other things to keep in mind when negotiating. This is a bit of a review and summary of a book I recently enjoyed.
Our adulthoods are framed by transitions at different stages in our life. Yet there is one thing in common, we are all becoming something. Thanks for sharing in the experience.
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